Living a Life You Love… Together
So much of my time and work focuses on helping people to recover from horrible or traumatic events that have happened to them in the course of their lifetimes.
Sometimes, the trauma is actually a result out of deep-rooted negative relationship patterns themselves.
More often, however, I see that healthy relationships can play an important part in the actual healing process. And it’s not just me. Research studies showed that some of the most effective therapy for combat related PTSD involved a couples or family therapy component. A traumatic event may start off as an assault on an individual but the impact spreads to those whom we love.
This is a collection of blogs I’ve written around the web, and some other great resources to help you and your loved ones cultivate better, healthier relationships.
New Year, New You! Ugh. How many times have we seen that heading before: "New Year, New You!" For about two weeks now, I've been listening to advertisements promising all sorts of delights and benefits specifically aimed at this idea: Last year was horrible. And...read more
This piece was originally published on EngagedMarriage.com. Have you ever asked your friends and family what they think of your spouse? Have they ever offered up an opinion regardless of you asking for it? Should you listen to what they say? And if so, how seriously...read more
Before you start reading, I need you to go track down your nearest string of pearls and get ready to clutch those bad boys tight, because what I’m going to tell you will leave you in a state of permanent shock at its abject horror: Cheating and infidelity are issues...read more
This piece was originally published on Many Kind Regards. It is being reprinted here with the permission of the site owner, as well as the author. I promised myself I wouldn’t do this. I promised myself that when this movie came out, I would just let it slip by… I...read more
This piece was originally published on Many Kind Regards. It is being reposted here with the permission of the site owner, as well as the author. In the aftermath of Robin Williams' death last month, Americans seem slightly more open to discussing the issue of...read more
My husband and I were driving down the road on a particularly gorgeous Texas winter evening. I guess I’d gone quiet—I didn’t notice—so my husband gently queried, “Whatcha’ thinking?” I didn't waste any time with context... I dove right in: “You know what I think...read more
Wait, what? I thought this was going to be a holiday post?! It is a holiday post, friends. Just not the holiday post you were expecting. If you’ve been watching the news at all lately, you may’ve heard of this “game” some kids thugs are “playing” in which they run...read more
If there’s a gene for being blunt, I promise you that my Jersey Italian family got it two-fold. We’re not crass or mean-spirited per se, but as my mother would put it, we’re “efficient in our honesty." (Well, that’s one way to put it!) Anyway, growing up in this...read more
So as you’ll recall, last month I wrote about two of the major ways technology can screw up marriages in Troubled Marriages and Technology (Part 1). And to be completely honest, it was a heavy conversation. This month, as promised, I want to talk about some of the...read more
Today, I feel like I need to address one of the most insidious myths about troubled marriages. Ready? The myth is that trouble marriages appear at random, seemingly out of nowhere. Reality Check: Troubled marriages don’t just happen. They are created. It...read more