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The Sassy Advocate™

There’s no way around it:  When I said I  wanted to create a space to have hard conversations with heart, I meant it. I often joke that my response to the question, “So, what do you do for a living?” is an instant conversation killer. (Apparently, “I work with survivors of sexual trauma” is not what most people expect me to say.) 

One time, a family member suggested that I consider (lying) replying with something more neutral– like a flight attendant or accountant.  And for a moment, I even considered it… and then I kicked that idea to the curb where it belonged. The truth is that I’m insanely proud of what I do and of the folks with whom I get to work.

I work with survivors, dammit. I work with people who have lived through things that most people can’t even bear to think about, and somehow they’re still here to tell the tale. I get to work with people who’ve lived inspite of what life has thrown at them.  And if that makes people uncomfortable– then that’s their problem.

The Sassy Advocate™  is focussed on bringing awareness to topics that don’t get discussed much over the dinner table or at cocktail parties– specifically domestic violence and sexual assault, and more generally to topics of mental health and human dignity. And more importantly it’s about learning that the consequences of not having these conversations are way too serious, and that it’s possible to get over ourselves and our social comforts enough to have them.

Stats on Sexual Assault


1:5 Women

According to recent studies, 1 in 5 women report having been sexually assaulted at some point in their lifetimes. (1)  Sexual assaults can include completed and attempted rape, molestation, forced oral sex, groping and other non-consensual acts.



Prevalence of PTSD in Survivors

A Johns Hopkins study stated that the chances a survivor of rape would develop Posttraumatic Stress Disorder was between 50-90%.


Percentage of Perpetrators Known to Victim

Our media culture does a heck of a job painting the picture of the typical rapist -- a creepy stranger lurking in the shadows.  However stranger rape only accounts for about 22% of all rapes, meaning the vast majority of perpetrators are known to their victims.  This number increases to 90% for child sexual abuse.

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Sexual Assault Blog Posts

Learn More About Domestic Violence

Number of Women Who Die Each Day

According National Network to End Domestic Violence, 3 women die each day as a result of intimate parter or domestic violence. (4)

Number of People per Minute

According to the CDC, 20 people per minute experience physical violence by an intimate partner in the United States.  That’s over 10 million acts of violence perpetrated by partners per year. (5)


Percentage of Financial Abuse in Domestic Violence Cases

Financial abuse is one of the most prevalent forms of abuse, while at the same being among the most overlooked.  The abuser will often have complete control of the money supply which creates daunting barriers to leaving. (6)

Domestic Violence Blog Posts


1 National Sexual Violence Resource Center. (2015). Statistics About Sexual Violence

2 Population Information Program, Center for Communications Programs. (2000). Population reports: Ending violence against women. The Johns Hopkins School of Public Health & Center for Health and Gender Equity.

3 US Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics. (2013). Female Victims of Sexual Violence, 1994-2010

4 The National Network To End Domestic Violence. (2013). Domestic Violence Awareness Month 31 in 31

5 Center for Disease Control (CDC). (2014).  National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey (NISVS)

The National Network to End Domestic Violence. (2015).  About Financial Abuse.


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